As a lot of you all have probably noticed, one of my favorite books of all time happens to be the "7 Spiritual Laws of Success" by Deepak Chopra. I try to apply the laws of this book to my everyday life, simply because they resonate with me. I feel that applying these laws would give anyone a better quality of life. The one law that I've been having trouble applying as of lately would be the law of detachment. Over the past few months, I have grown to discover attachment being the biggest hindrance in my life. I don't have a regular attachment to everyday things. My attachment happens to be to the people in my life. My attachment, combined with the fact that I'm a serious empath, has lead me in some undesirable directions, and I have only had myself to blame.
Deepak states "In detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty . . . in the wisdom of uncertainty lies the freedom from our past, from the known, which is the prison of past conditioning. And in our willingness to step into the unknown, the field of all possibilities, we surrender ourselves to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe."
I put a lot of energy into my relationships with others, which leads to expectations.....which are never really fair to anyone.
Oprah says that when you're running your race, it is important not to focus on the other guy, due to your inability to control the other guy. In other words, stay in your lane by staying focused on your purpose and the energy that you are putting out. There is no way that you can remain focused if you're too focused on others.
Being detached doesn't mean that you don't love people, or don't care for others. It simply means letting go of expectations of the outcome of things...and trusting your journey. There have been times when I would worry a lot about my husband and his safety, instead of trusting that he would be okay, and whatever happens is meant to happen. There were times when I would allow myself to be saddened by the idea that people would not be there for me in the same ways that I was there for them. There were also times when I would always feel guilty for telling people "No", or whenever I did tell them "no", I would have to have some grand explanation that made everyone feel comfortable with my answer. All of these are characteristics of being attached. These characteristics usually left me dealing with anxiety over situations that were never even that big of a deal to begin with.
Realizing that we all have our own journeys, and that without giving my all to my own individual journey, I am in no position to serve others, led me to embrace the feeling of detachment. Loving without attachments and expectations allow me to love more freely without conditions....and there really is no other way to love. xo